WASHINGTON – Federal district judge Virginia Phillips, following on her September decision striking down the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” law in a case brought by the Log Cabin Republicans, ordered, Oct. 12 the Department of Defense to immediately cease enforcement of the statute barring gays and lesbians from serving openly in the Armed Forces.
This is a huge step in the right direction, it’s about time that lgbt citizens receive equal treatment for the equal taxes that we pay.
It’s been quite some time since I’ve written in this blog and I have a few reasons. My main reason is that I’ve decided that certain aspects of my life I want to keep more on the private side and the other reason is that I want to focus more on other subjects that I enjoy. When I started my blog I wanted to share parts of myself (from a lesbian perspective) but I am more than a lesbian, I’m woman, a mom a lover a friend…I could go on. I’ve come to a point where I do not want to focus just on the “lesbian” aspect of my life. Please don’t get me wrong I am VERY proud to be a lesbian – I just do not want that to be my main for only focus at the moment.
I have decided that I will still post in this blog but it will not be my mainly writing for my beauty and fashion blog. I am currently focusing my attention on my latest project: Lipstick & Luxury . Some close friends know Ithat ‘ve always had a passion for beauty, makeup, fashion and luxury items – and this blog will give me a chance to focus on something that I really love and have a passion for. So if you choose – please feel free to follow me there. If not, please stay tuned for more blog posts here on Lipstick in NYC (just not as often).
xoxo,
Lipstick
This morning started off like any other, I got up ran some errands, went to the city for some business and then went to my wife’s job to meet her for lunch. I met her in the lobby of her office building and proceeded upstairs to her office. As usual we ran into a few of her co-workers, some that I had met before and others that I had not. We exchanged pleasantries and went about our business. My wife and I enjoyed a delicious lunch and I left her at her job and headed back home. Once I was home, I received a phone call from her asking if I’d received her email, I had no idea what she was talking about so I logged into my gmail account and read her email. To my surprise was a screen shot of a Facebook page and the following status update from a co-worker and his friends’ responses (copied word for word):
Co-worker: Today I met my co workers wife. It was really an odd experience for me. She has been married to her for a quite some time now with children. SIGH
Friend #1: WOW…
Friend #2: Ummmm….O…if u don’t mind me calling you….u just said she has been married to her….*praying for a typo*
Friend #3: Wait 2 women? N remember the President fathers day speech. So many men have eliminated themselves from the nuclear family that it has made it easy for same sex couples to adopt children
Friend #4: Two women?
Friend #5: Ooohh …yeah… Pretty akward
Friend #4: end times!!
Friend #2: Men as well as women exclude each other from the nuclear fam
Co-worker: yea 2 women
Co-worker: She says, hey o___ this is my wife… i was like um lol nice to meet you
I was incredibly shocked because the man who posted it was someone who I just chatted with a few hours before. When I met this person he immediately stopped to say hi, chatted with me about his morning and not once did I think that he was in any way uncomfortable. After our chat, he went about his day and we went about ours, not having a second thought about our interaction. When I spoke with my wife, she was hurt – she was hurt that someone who was not only her co-worker but someone whom she interacts with on a daily basis felt the need to post this status update to his Facebook page for everyone to see. I on the other hand was very angry, I didn’t understand his point…was it the sheer fact that I’m a lesbian that made him uncomfortable? Was it the fact that we lesbians dared to have children? I really don’t understand the point that he was trying to make at all. What’s clear to me is that he felt the need to share his homophobia with his friends in a very public way and to me that’s the saddest part of all.
Homophobia is a prejudice just like racism or sexism and it’s alive and well everywhere. If those that have an irrational fear of gay people did some research they would find out real facts about homosexuality: Homosexual behaviors have been noted in every primate species studied so far. Homosexuality is also found in all cultures around the world and cultural norms have little difference on homosexual behavior of those inhabitants. Studies have even shown that there is no difference in the psychological well being of child raised by same sex couples or straight couples, yet some will have society believe that homosexuality is not natural and a threat to the sanctity of straight marriage. We as lesbians seek nothing more than respect and equal treatment but because of who we love society feels that it’s ok to ridicule us, bash us and deny us our rights. I am asking every LGBT person out there to adopt a policy of “each one, teach one” – take the time to educate our brothers and sister about LGBT people and issues. This is not only for us but for the children that will come after we are long gone, we all deserve equal rights and fair treatment and we’ve been asking for it for far too long.
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